1 : firm belief in the character, strength, or truth of someone or something He placed his trust in me. 2 : a person or thing in which confidence is placed. 3 : confident hope I waited in trust of their return. 4 : a property interest held by one person or organization (as a bank) for the benefit of another.
Trust. You trust everyone in your inner circle right? What if that's not the case? Do you confront?
Do you let things play out in hopes that the lies will unravel?
Do you not give the benefit of the doubt and end the relationship, friendship, etc ?
We're taught and a young age about trust and as we get older it becomes harder because, well, life changed us.
The hard truth is that we don't want to let our pasts make us jaded but inevitably it happens. Being lied to-whatever ugly way it's happened-scars you. It is always sensitive of reopening the wound by not fully trusting those we let in.
I don't think anyone really plans on lying. There I said it. And if they do? They are what I define as a manipulator or my favorite type to keep at arms length, a narcissist.
As we grow in our relationships it also becomes hard to let go. Even if you know the person has changed for the worse. So as you assess your circle remember these signs of a trustworthy person:
These signs are dead giveaways that you're dealing with a keeper:
• They are consistent
• They show compassion and humility
• They respect boundaries
• They compromise and don't expect something for nothing
• They're relaxed (and so are you)
• They are respectful when it comes to time
• They show gratitude
The flip side of that is the untrustworthy:
• They break eye contact
• Their mood changes quickly
• They seem disconnected
• They make rude remarks
• They talk about others behind their back
• They tell you how to feel
• They refuse to apologize
• They can't control their emotions
• They exhibit "black or white" kind of thinking
• They are unpredictable
• They lack empathy
• They can't handle negative feedback
Do you know people like this? Chances are you need to take a step back and reexamine how important they are to you. Most likely these behaviors have hurt you and that my dear, is not okay.
Stand your ground.
Speak the truth.
Stay rational when you discuss these concerns with someone you feel you can't trust.
They will be the ones to reveal if they're to be trusted or not.
I hope everyone you love remains in the "Trust Tree".
The Southern Penny